I Am officially stressed……stressssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss~
If there is miracle… please happen now.
STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSED
Recently, I have been asked to attend to a funeral wake.
A friend whose father had passed away. I have never meet the father before as he was working overseas all along. My deepest condolences.
But the thing is… of the so many funeral wakes I have been to…I will never know what to say when I met with the immediate family.
What If i say the wrong things?
Will i sound too cliche? cheesy? Or the family already so depressed that if i ask how did he passed away, will that rake up more sadness?
My friend will go like ” Damn!! How many times do I have to answer this question!!!?
But luckily there is internet, google this question and there are alot of model answers. E.g
The most common and sincere way of extending your sympathy is to say “I am sorry” to the bereaved for his loss. These three words are enough to convey to the grieving person that you understand the importance of the deceased person in his life and that you share his sadness. These words are enough to show that you sincerely care for the bereaved”
As they mentioned, listening is more important than doing anything at all. Studies have shown that people who suffered from loss accept their situation faster with the help of other people willing to listen. A listening ear does mush more help than you can imagine.
If you have to mentioned the deceased…use only the name and no other terms.
Nonverbal actions are acceptable like a gentle, sincere hug or gentle pat on the shoudlers. A simple gesture like this can be a source of strength for the grieving family. ( at least the one you are close to) Not going around touching their hot sisters or brothers ok~
Well, hope it helps… for those who have no choice but to go this kinda occasions.~ 
This song… again… ringing in my head~
Those who likes to strum a little here n there…Can try~
Em Cadd9 D5
I wanna hold em’ like they do in texas, please
Em Cadd9 D5
Fold em’ let em’ hit me, baby, stay with me
Em Cadd9 D5
Luck and intuition play the cards with spades to start
Em Cadd9 D5
And after she’s been hooked i’ll play the one that’s on her heart
Em C D*
Oh, oh, oh, oh, ohhhh, ohh-oh-e-ohh-oh-oh
D* C D*
I’ll get her hot, show her what i’ve got
Em C D*
Oh, oh, oh, oh, ohhhh, ohh-oh-e-ohh-oh-oh
D* C D*
I’ll get her hot, show her what i’ve got
Em
Can’t read my, can’t read my
C G D
No you can’t read my poker face
Em
Can’t read my, can’t read my
C G D
No you can’t read my poker face
Em Cadd9 D5
P-p-p-poker face, p-p-poker face
Em Cadd9 D5
P-p-p-poker face, p-p-poker face
Em Cadd9 D5
[I wanna roll with her a hard pair we will be
A little gambling is fun when you're with me
Russian roulette is not the same without a gun
And baby when it's love, if its not rough it isn't fun]
Em C D*
Oh, oh, oh, oh, ohhhh, ohh-oh-e-ohh-oh-oh
D* C D*
I’ll get her hot, show her what i’ve got
Em C D*
Oh, oh, oh, oh, ohhhh, ohh-oh-e-ohh-oh-oh
D* C D*
I’ll get her hot, show her what i’ve got
Em
Can’t read my, can’t read my
C G D
No you can’t read my poker face
Em
Can’t read my, can’t read my
C G D
No you can’t read my poker face
Em Cadd9 D5
P-p-p-poker face, p-p-poker face
Em Cadd9 D5
P-p-p-poker face, p-p-poker face
Em Cadd9 D5
P-p-p-poker face, p-p-poker face
Em Cadd9 D5
P-p-p-poker face, p-p-poker face
Em
Can’t read my, can’t read my
C G D
No you can’t read my poker face
Em
Can’t read my, can’t read my
C G D
No you can’t read my poker face
Em
Can’t read my, can’t read my
C G D
No you can’t read my poker face
Em
Can’t read my, can’t read my
C G D
No you can’t read my poker face
Em C
P-p-p-poker face, p-p-poker face
G D
P-p-p-poker face, p-p-poker face
Em C
P-p-p-poker face, p-p-poker face
G D
P-p-p-poker face, p-p-poker face
Don’t know for some reason, I am compelled to write something today… Maybe its the date… i think i wrote something last year today also…
Nothing major happened…
Think for some absurd reasons, something is gonna happen this day, few years down the road. But I really do hope its for the better for all of us.
I have been shamelessly neglecting this blog… want to write something day in day out but i doubt there is much readers coming in to read this boring crap. Life is like a straight line for me now… looooonnnnng line… can’t see the future, where does this line ends? FUcking EMO crap…
This past 2 weeks has been a quite a stressful one for me. For this time round, I know at least the cause of it…. WORK….
New environment AGAIN~ supposely to be better… not too far… nearer….
I will milk it til the last drop before anythg happens… make it happen!! I must to pay all the bills… I must!!!
I almost forgot that i have a blog.
I think mainly is the lack of pictures, lost thoughts and a blank mind that are stopping me from writing anything at all…
As we are coming to the last quarter of the year, I start to dig out what have I achieved over the past 9 months, whatever I set out to do, so call resolutions I have set upon myself.
Sad but true enough, there isn’t much I can safely say I am proud of or close to achieveing it. Feels like I wasted 3/4 of the year…. I should be glad I still have a job with miserably decent pay.
My job involves in calculating daily other people’s pay. I roughly know what occupation command what kinda income. Sometimes I compare myself to them… its really quite a gap. Those that not doing so well get worse by the day, those that are well to do are getting even more well to do. Goes the saying “Poor is getting poorer, rich is getting richer”. What about those middle class? Well, most of them stays when they are.
Sometimes I wonder, in fact really curious those people that earns a whopping 20k to 30k monthly, how do they spend their money? Why isn’t it enough? Many will say, ” more you earn, more you spend”. True enough, thinking back on the 1st job I took when I step out from national service. My peanuts income of $750/mth back in year 2000 as a florist/delivery boy, was enough to put my thru the month. 2nd proper job with an income of $1,600, feeds me well and extra to even get me a small bike.
But now… with the income I take home hardly sees me thru the end of the month. Or issit that the pursue of better quality stuffs and greed brings us to the downfall.
I have been this company for 22 months now… moved 3 times. Hope this location brings me where I want n hope for. But somehow i feel that its just moving only without the direction…. up.
Only good thing about this place is nearer to home, I don’t have to fight with the horrendous traffic on PIE every evening. Feels like its a battle of life and death each time I go home from work. Phew~
Coming to work now, saves on petrol cost but increase on the stupid ERP charges…
ERP on the ECP : $1.25
ERP in the CBD : $1.25
Parking charges : $0.65
Total : $3.15/day
GOooooosh… I was really surprise how merciless LTA can be on us motorist. I ride a bike to save some money and also have the convenience of a car, but nooooo…it jus sucks every single cent you have. The Horror!!!
Gone were those days when you just need to use a $0.65 coupon and park at different open air carparks. Each time I enter a multi storey carpark, I have to sadly see them take away my money in my cashcard without me able to do anything about it.
Something needs to be done….
How true… how true…
When we have the things we cannot have somehow, we want the things that we discarded the 1st place.
We are one big boundless bottomless pit…
Hungry for the things that we don’t know… in the end… end up having nothing at all…
what am i trying to say??
Beats the Shit out of me…
Recently, I seem to have problems getting a good sound nite sleep.
I am quite tired in the day…slept and wake up in the middle of the nite and could not go back sleep again. Staring at the ceiling, looking at the four walls surrounding me making me claustrophobic at times.
Told myself numerous times that I need to go back to sleep. Twisting, turning, rolling left to right, changing sleeping positions, pillow becomes bolster, bolster become pillow, drinking milk, meditating, reading, smoking, counting sheeps doesn’t help alot.
Sometimes, I get alot of images in the head… once i close my eyes.. it all comes out. Vivid ones, flashing by and disappear in a second ones, some even looks like someone took a torchlight and shine it into my eyes.
It just feels like i have alot of things going on in my head. Is there someone or something trying to tell me something? I do not understand anything that i am being told or hinted or see.
Oh man… how do u sleep at nite… peacefully at least…
I need some peaceful sleep….
